It just feels weird if a girl is taller or older then me, its like shes done more then me, even if its only a few months.

I just don’t think I would feel like a man, if shes looking down on me and is older then me it just feels really emasculating

I know I probably have some deep issues (some suggest it has something to do with my mom)

But I’m in college now and Im 21, more girls are younger then me, is it so wrong and sick to want a girl whos younger and smaller then me.

I just want to feel like a man
of course i mean a girl over 18

NO, it’s instinct. But don’t pass the tall ones by. If you marry a short chick, your kids will be called midgets and that’s not cool.

I have always been a bit of a talker, and yes, I do talk about myself a lot, but being single, and not having any kids etc, I do spend a lot of time on my own. Also, I don’t tend to socialise all that often with that particular friend, (although I would have considered them a close friend) so whenever I do get a catch-up with them, I generally do talk about what I’ve been up to etc.

I am not the most exciting person, so don’t particular have anything interesting to talk about, although that doesn’t seem to be enough to stop me waffling on.

I wouldn’t say that I was selfish - I do listen to my friends when they are talking and I try to help them out wherever I can. I just seem to get carried away with the sound of my own voice.

Any advice on how to tone it down a bit? I don’t like people having this negative opinion of me, and although I only heard one particular person making this comment, I know that they will discuss these opinions of me within the group and fear that everyone now has this view of me, and it might be difficult to change my ways/(change their opinions).

I realise that even this post might sound self-obsessed/vain, and I am a little insecure, so maybe that’s partially why I crave this attention.

Advice please, (although please don’t be too harsh!)
The wording of the question should perhaps read "it’s so engrossed with itself" and yes, the reference to "it" is supposed to be me as a person.
It was a man who said it, although he is the fiance of one of my oldest friends (who I am also due to be a part of their wedding).

I don’t see them just as often as I used to anymore, however, whenever I do see them, I often get a vibe that they perhaps can’t be bothered with me (and then I beat myself up over it - wondering why they wanted to spend any time with me in the first place etc).

Dont be so hard on yourself, the so called friend is certainly not! I can understand how you feel, I too used to talk the hinde legs off a donkey, but when I realized what I was doing, I changed my way to being a listener instead, it is surprising how many people now ask for my advice, and I love being there for them all! You have not committed a crime, stop beating yourself up, and, anyway, the person in question, may not have been talking about you in the first place! Good luck x

I just don’t understand why is not the truth so easy to grasp. Trinity and Hellfire have its plot holes but living for ever on paradise doesn’t (Adam and Eve, garden of Eden for ex). That’s just an example.

I understand that living in accord to Godly principles is completely separate from learning the truth. But some people always remain intrigued but refuse to grasp it, why? Because the Devil has blinded the minds of the unbelievers? (did I just answer my own question?) If so, the devil’s craftiness shouldn’t stop Jehovah from being able to draw more people.
A Jesus witness? LOL ok. So Jesus witnessed for Jesus then? You see, Trinity makes no sense. My point extactly.

Because the true worshipers of God (John 4:23, 24) have always been FEW in comparison to the majority in the world.

In Noah’s day, out of the entire world population of that time ONLY EIGHT people survived the flood. I can’t imagine that all of those people were evil, I am sure that there were those who were considered to be nice, decent people. But being a nice, decent person is NOT what cuts it with Jehovah. Noah was spared because the Bible says that when God told Noah to do something, when he KNEW what the will of Jehovah was; "Noah proceeded to do according to all that God had commanded him. He did just so" (Genesis 6:22).

In the time of Sodom & Gomorrah, ONLY THREE people survived their destruction (Lot and his two daughters). Why? Because of the exact same reason why Noah and his family survived, because of doing "just so" concerning Jehovah’s will (Lot’s stupid wife died because of not doing "just so").

In the time of Jerusalem 70 C.E ONLY FEW survived it’s destruction in comparison to the majority that were killed or starved out by the Romans.

Soon, only FEW will survive the end of this world in comparison to the majority of it’s population.

"Go in through the narrow gate; because broad and spacious is the road leading off into destruction, and MANY are the ones going in through it; 14 whereas narrow is the gate and cramped the road leading off into life, and FEW are the ones finding it."
~Matthew 7:13, 14~

Dude, I’m gonna just flat out speak from the heart. Listen to me Pecks, I know what coming from the world is all about (I think you are already familiar with my story) and I’m not gonna go into elaborate details about the things I did in the world and was attracted to. There comes a time when a person has to SERIOUSLY think about what they want, where they are headed, who they truly are and why they are here.

Jehovah’s Witnesses don’t have a "religion" per say, they have a way of life that centers around their worship of God through Jesus in accordance with the Bible and it’s absolutely beautiful.

I know that may some hum drum and I sometimes can’t believe that I now think like this but it’s true. A person’s heart (their seat of motivation as explained at the hall) has to be completely affected by the truth. When compared to ANYTHING that this world has to offer or can offer, nothing in this world holds a freakin candel next to the truth…. seriously.

I understand why Moses chose to be in the freakin mud with God’s people rather than to enjoy all the riches and enjoyments that Egypt had to offer, I understand this now Pecks.

We live in this world for such a short time and then we’re dead dude. The hope of the resurrection is powerful though, it makes going through this world and giving up the things in this world easier to deal with. Once a person who has the hope of the paradise earth has died, for THEM it will SEEM like they are awakening in the paradise almost immediately because of not having been conscious of anything during the long time that they were dead. Is that a bad thing? No way! It’s totally awesome!

My point is, when compared with what Jehovah has in store, the present time we have in this world is obsolete. Even if it means having to grow old and die in this world before Armageddon comes, it’s worth it!

The only thing that matters right now is doing Jehovah’s will and coming to love and respect him more and more each day. It’s about a person’s HEART Pecks, their HEART. This is why the Bible says to guard it more than anything else. Jesus gave that illustration of the man who was throwing seeds along the road and the seeds fell on different kinds of enviroments and he explained what it all meant. Everyone who hears the true message of God’s Kingdom falls into one of those enviroments and if it’s not the last one Jesus mentioned, you’re headed for trouble.

I refuse to die with this world! I want to see my pappa again in the paradise, I want to be there when he wakes up from death! I want to be the person that God made me to be (not who I think I should be or what some other imperfect person thinks I should be), I want to live forever, I want to be there when everyone on earth knows the truth, when haters and apostates of Jehovah and his people are gone forever, when all the promises of God have been fulfilled. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING and NO ONE is going to stand in my way… and that includes myself!

Once I learned the truth and it came into my heart, my life changed and it will NEVER be the same, it can’t. A person has to find out what their stumbling block is and do WHATEVER is necessary to remove, go around or deal with it. My stumbling block was (and still is) sex and the desires of the flesh, but I do all that is necessary to control it. I go to sex anonymous, I make all the meetings at the hall, I do intense personal study and I pray (in tears when I have to). Why? Because the hope that God offers is worth all of it, he is worth it.

No one has EVER loved me the way that he has and does, no one. I have been used by this world in ways that would make people sick. Compared with the love that Jehovah and Jesus have shown me, there is no comparison and I would glady die for them if I had to… glady. I was going to die in the world anyway when I was on drugs and when I was in and at places where I could have easily been done in, why not be happy to die for Jehovah?

Pecks, find out what YOUR stumbling block is and do whatever is necessary to remove, go around or deal with it. God will help you. I know you were in the armed services (though I don’t know which branch of service) but the U.S Marines have a saying that those who are members are of "the few, the proud". That saying is far more true concerning Jehovah’s people.

He called us to him Reo, don’t worry about how many were called or how few were called, we just need to be happy and grateful that we were called.

Yay, my pizza is here! Okay I gotta go.

Ciao

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